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3 Ways to Handle Haters

By on Aug 5, 2012 in Featured, Random Remarks, Success | 13 comments

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In life there’s no avoiding getting haters. We all have our own world views and most of the time those differences will lead to clashes and conflict. It’s even more evident today with the rise of blogging and social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter. I’ve had some experience in this (lol) so I guess I just want to share how I deal with them. Here are three tips that I’ve followed and learned through the years that you might find helpful.

1. Ignore them.
If there’s one thing you have to understand about haters is that they do not criticize, they attack. They take pleasure in putting you down. There is absolutely no point in trying to engage with them (especially online) because they’ve already made up their mind to shoot you down with their AK-47 even before you raise the flag for parley, lol.

Remove them from your immediate consciousness because they will just wear you down and cause undeserved stress. They can distract you from doing what you’re supposed to be doing. Remember: you can never please them or satisfy them.

What about the feedback that they give? If you have the strength, patience, and will power to see through the hate and find the nuggets of wisdom, then go for it. If not, don’t worry. You can always get feedback from non-haters and it will just be as good, if not better.

HOWEVER, if the time comes that there is a genuine window or opportunity for you to work with them and settle your differences, go for it. Take the initiative and be compassionate.

Tips 2 and 3 after the break.

2. Focus on the work at hand. Keep shipping. Best defense is success.
If you’re worried about them tearing down your reputation then let me share one piece of advice that one of my mentors once told me: the hardest thing to argue against is success. If that’s the case then instead of giving your haters the time of day, focus on your work and in delivering successful products or campaigns.

If you’re just starting out, build on the little successes and let it feed your psyche so that you have the confidence, strength, and determination to follow through. Use your failures as a reminder so that you are more cautious and so that you don’t miss the important little details.

3. Spend more time with the people who really matter to you.
The worst thing you can do is get affected by haters and bring that negativity home to the people that truly matter to your life. Don’t get affected. If ever you do, cast it out before you go home. Draw strength, inspiration, and joy from the love of your family and real friends.

Most importantly, pray for grace. You will not be able to do this on your own.

Don’t get affected. Don’t get infected. Don’t spread it.

Focus. Ship. Love. 🙂

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13 Comments

  1. Phoebe Lucero

    August 5, 2012

    Great advice! I was there when you taught at the bloggers seminar in greenhills. I still remember your advice and I think I’ve applied a thing or two in my site. Thank you! 🙂

  2. Carlo Ople

    August 5, 2012

    Thanks Phoebe! Will check your site out 🙂

  3. corrine

    August 6, 2012

    I very like your post. I can relate to it and it’s bringing me the determination to continue. Coz right now someone been destroying my reputation in public both in fan page and blog. But never did argue with those nonsense people. But of course it made me angry but in the same time I pity those people coz they are so bitter with the realization of their true problems they blame me than blaming themselves. Your right why stress myself continue my goal and move on. Thank you so much for the tips.

  4. Glenn

    August 6, 2012

    Nice article. I just have one question, though. How can you handle haters when the haters itself are your friends? Thanks.

  5. Martin Bornilla

    August 6, 2012

    Wow, nice article carlo, there really lot of bozos and haters out there, ha ha, too bad i didnt attend you seminar,im sure going there is very fruitful.

  6. Carlo Ople

    August 6, 2012

    Thanks Martin! Join the next one! Hahaha 😛

  7. Carlo Ople

    August 6, 2012

    Then you might want to think hard if that person truly is a “friend”.

  8. Carlo Ople

    August 6, 2012

    I’m glad that the article was able to help Corrine!

  9. Lemirand

    August 6, 2012

    Nice Read!

    I remember when i was starting i get to have a few but was able to handle them well.
    Again, there is no sweet revenge than to slap them with your own success.
    Now, the haters are our customers again.

    Congratulations Carlo for your success and more to come!

  10. Mar Gonzales

    August 6, 2012

    Great and very timely article 🙂 Cheers!

  11. Neutral Universe

    August 6, 2012

    Awesome article from an awesome man! As always!

  12. Santelmo

    August 7, 2012

    This post is right on time. I’ve just had my share of “hater/s” on my food blog. All I did was delete and disable the anonymous comments, but still I won’t deny the fact that the rude comments affected my ego at one point. lol ^_^

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